When it comes to psychology its not a popular subject. For me it is. The word psyche means soul. And Ology just means the study of. A term comes up and it is called “The Dark night of the Soul”
This the time when you and your soul comes face to face. This is not a beautiful union at first at first this is a conflict. Because you as an individual have disconnected from your soul a long time ago. And to rectify it one would need to Back track and to backtrack causes a lot of pain.
Ultimately “The Dark Night of the Soul” is when a person confronts their shadow or thier shadow confronts them. This confrontation ultimately is the first step to true self development. Self in the sense of the soul.
During this time you will experience times where you will make different decisions and those decision will cause you to have guilt and this will drive you deeper if you don’t understand what is happening. If you don’t feel the same as you once did before about people, places, and things then thats a good thing. If you are deeply attached to these things its a bad thing.
The first phase of knowing the true self in alchemy is called the blackening phase. Or the nigredo phase. This is a time when our Eros and our Super Ego are at odds.
The Id is our primitive and instinctive component of our personality. It is everything we came into this planet with. The will to live your best life (EROS)(Lover) and your will to die (Thanatos)(Soldier). These are unconscious drives that we have.
Eros is the personification of our intense love and desire with no filter. This is a powerful force in our life.
The ID is how respond directly to instincts with no filter.
When we are first born we are all ID. We never lose the ID and the ID is not affected by reality.
The Ego has the job of directing the ID.
So if you have a humble EGO and a powerful ID. Than the ID will overpower you and force you to catch up with it. IF you understand your energy and accomodate it things will work out well.
The Ego has other plans unfortunately and this creates a crisis. Your soul wants more and you want less. Who will win.
The Super Ego is the counter part to the ego which controls our moral compass. The part of us that has learned from our society, parents and teachers for better or worse whats right or wrong and what good or bad.
The Super Ego uses 2 tools to stay afloat conscience (an inner feeling or voice viewed as acting as a guide to the rightness or wrongness of one’s behavior) and the ideal self. The conscience is there to punish you when you make “wrong” decisions and reward you when you make “right” decisions. Because ultimately by making “right” decisions you reach the ideal self. So let’s not forget that this ideal self is based on society, parents and teachers.
When someone says they our going through a dark night of the soul or resonate with the topic, this means you are going through real despair, loss of meaning in life and a deep uncertainty about the future. Its past wanting people to feel sorry for you. You may not even tell people whats going on or even how to articulate it. That is because the transformation is real.
The rebirth is real. The phoenix rising from the ashes is real. The changing of your reality starts with whats going on. You cant take it with you. It all must be transmuted.
The Soul wants to connect with you. It cannot connect with you outside of truth. So any fancy thing you think you are doing. OR goal you are striving for. Are you sure it is from the soul. OR do you feel obiligated.
In alchemy, Nigerdo, or blackness meanse putrefacation or decompistion. This is the first step to becoming whole.
This shows up as a disruptive event that causes us to turn inward and shed our outside public facing self and deal with the ID and EROS. To shed our false beliefs is referred to facing the Shadow. Or our DARK SIDE.
“In a real dark night of the soul it is always three o’clock in the morning, day after day.”
— F. Scott Fitzgerald, The Crack-Up
The “dark night of the soul” does not refer to the difficulties of life in general,
“The meeting with oneself is, at first, the meeting with one’s own shadow. The shadow is a tight passage, a narrow door, whose painful constriction no one is spared who goes down to the deep well. But one must learn to know oneself in order to know who one is.” (Carl Jung)